Virginia Satir Quotes

I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.

Once a human being has arrived on this earth communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships he makes with others and what happens to him in the world about him.

We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.

It is O. K. for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways.

The greatest gift I can give is to see hear understand and touch another person.

So much is asked of parents and so little is given.

Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world who are probably not so sure themselves.

Negotiating the adolescent stage is neither quick nor easy.

I am me and I am okay.

We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.

Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education the principal the classroom teacher and the janitor ...

Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.

We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.

We get together on the basis of our similarities; we grow on the basis of our differences.

Our biggest problem as human beings is not knowing that we don't know.

I know people can change-right down to my bones through every cell in every fiber of my body-I now that people can change. It is just a question of when and in what context.

People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty

A growing body of clinical observation has pointed to the conclusion that the family therapy must be oriented to the family as a whole.

As a therapist I am a companion. I try to help people tune into their own wisdom.

I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them heard by them to be understood and touched by them.

Life is not what it's supposed to be. It's what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.

Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.

Why Family Therapy...because it deals with family pain.

We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.

The full life is filled with vulnerability not defense. You face whatever feeling there is.

The Problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper.

I give life to that which I notice. What I don't notice dies.

You have all played a significant part in my development of loving. As a result my life has been rich and full so I leave feeling very grateful.

No one's fingerprints are exactly the same as anyone else's.

Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.

Every word facial expression gesture or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.

Many people are living in an emotional jail without realizing it.

I own me and therefore I can engineer me. I am me and I am Okay.

Taste everything but swallow only what fits.

What lingers from the parent's individual past unresolved or incomplete often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.

The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival eight per day for maintenance and twelve per day for growth.

You have learned what you have learned very well. It has helped you survive.

The message sent is not always the message received.