Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Had I not spent so much time doing something that made me so miserable I would have never learned how to appreciate doing what brings me joy.

Healing is the application of love.

Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt.

For some reason we keep forgetting some of our experience. We look back but don't bring the value forward. We bring the anger the upset. We bring the fear.

Pain is pain hurt is hurt fear is fear anger is anger and it has no color.

You are never angry for the reason you think you are. There's an older hurt under that.

If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today take a deep breath reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.

What will support any relationship is clear complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur.

Abundance is a direct reflection of your preparation to live abundantly. People who are ready for abundance keep their heads up their eyes open and give thanks for everything they get.

We have a tendency to always test people's love. 'I want to see how badly I have to behave before you'll leave me. Because I don't really think you want me anyhow.'

When we pray it opens our minds to the divine consciousness of God. Prayer opens your mind to answers that have always been present.

The thing I always tell my audiences all the time is that I'm just two steps ahead of you on a good day. And I might be two steps behind you on a bad day.

The goal isn't to be perfect but to be authentic!

Authenticity means that you must do what you do the way you do it and allow everyone else the same courtesy.

When do you feel most loved? Are you willing to be loved today? Self-love is the magnet that attracts deep and profound expressions of love from others

I don't think anybody can be held accountable or responsible for anyone's behaviors expect the individual. This goes beyond that particular situation.

A man who is not accountable to anyone is a danger to himself

Once we become aware of our issues and challenges we become accountable to do something about it.

We must each learn to feel comfortable in our own uniqueness by rising above the fear of being wrong and the aversion to being different.

Spiritual consciousness does not make your problems go away; it does however help you view them from a different vantage point.

Be aware that who you are and what you have to offer can be a beacon to some lost soul.

There are going to be moments today you don't like me. You'll get over it.

I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface.

Accept and acknowledge your own brilliance. Stop waiting for others to tell you how great you are! Believe it for yourself and about yourself.

Don't hold yourself back because you're afraid or because you've been hurt...acknowle dge your fear accept it and walk through it with confidence.

Accept all invitations to do a new thing. Dare not limit yourself. Move toward your wildest #"? dream take the labels off your mind and step boldly into your greatness.

I let go of the past and choose to accept every situation as being for me and not against me.

Until you are willing to accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of your life your life will keep sending you experiences designed to get your attention.

Sooner or later we must all accept the fact that in a relationship the only person you are dealing with is yourself.

Beloveds you are fine just the way you are! Perfect in your imperfection! You are divine! Growing brighter and more brilliant each day you can accept the truth of who you are.

Know thyself. Accept thyself. Love thyself. No matter what you have done where you have been know accept and love who you are.

The voice I had accepted as Divine Guidance was actually the voice of my ego leading me right into destruction.

I must have decided wrongly because I am not at peace.

The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination. ... until you take the journey of self-reflection it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.

Comparison is an act of violence against the self.

To me freedom means having the power the inherent right the capacity and the ability to make choices that honour who I am.

The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first.

It is important to acknowledge all your feelings and not beat yourself up for having them. Your feelings are not good or bad they just are.

If you want a real experience of serenity look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.

When was the last time you thanked you for always being there for you? Self appreciation soothes an aching soul.

What keeps us from achieving our heart's desires is not anything outside of us it's the conflict inside.

Your eyes will adjust to the level of deficiency

Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self.


If you don't have a test you won't be able to have a testimony.

Always remember who you are. Know that you are never required to apologize to anyone for being yourself.

Everyone is always looking for their beloved. Well why can't you be your own beloved? Fall in love with yourself.

When your life is working there will be an absence of drama

Our beliefs are what create our experiences. As we change our beliefs we alter our perception our version of reality.

People say I've had a difficult time in life. I think I've had an exciting time in life.

When you are in alignment with the desires of your heart things have a way of working out.

If you want to be at peace you have to be clear about your intetion and - moment by moment - in alignment with your intention

I don't think there's such a thing as a selfish prayer. Prayer puts you in communication so you can talk about whatever you want to talk about.

It's about your heart and about your consciousness. It's not about length of time you pray. Some of the most powerful prayers I've ever heard come from children who can barely speak.

When you have something to do life will not allow you to ove foward until you do it.

The only thing that goes on in your life is what your allow to go on in your life

All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain.

All things are lessons that God would have us learn.

All relationships have the same basic components: people needs and expectations.

I think most people think that a spiritual path or growing spiritually means that all of a sudden you'll be able to forecast the six lotto numbers and all your bills will be paid.

Criticism does not make you smarter or better than the one you are criticizing. In fact the stuff you are critical of in others is the same stuff you don't like about yourself.

Until you heal the wounds of your past you will continue to bleed

Until you make peace with your difficult memories that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.

One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection.

You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people. But until you heal the wounds of your past you are going to bleed.

I hope that my story I hope that my life is... an encouragement for people especially in Brooklyn. I feel humbled and blessed.

The life you want is on the other side of the labor pains it takes to birth it.

Talk about your negative experiences with the father with your girlfriends. Not with your children. And bite your tongue when it comes to diminishing denying dismissing name-calling.

Black Girls rock because we have no other choice.

A man can't be in the space where there is feminine rage and bitterness. He doesn't know how to navigate it.

Why are you measuring? This is how you block delay hinder obstruct and deny his place in the life as a father.

Everyone has something that blocks us from the full experience and expression of our nobility.

Use your time energy and talents to do the best you can right now. Spend no time wishing it were better

The best students get the hardest lessons.

Remain open. There is something bigger than you know going on here.

If you don't ask for what you need the need will keep getting bigger.

Acceptance means that you know regardless of what happened that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay.

When two broken people bring their broken pieces together chances are they will never become a whole anything.

Who you are is strong enough to bare your pain

I was sitting on the bus and the sign said if you're ready to better your life come to Medgar Evers College and I got off the bus and went to Medgar Evers College.

Do what brings you joy and your purpose will unfold.

Breathing deeply and releasing fear will help you get to where you want to be.

When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain you know it is healed.

The only energy that has any power in your life is the gift of breath from God.

[God is] all that is. Everything. Everything. Breath life. Just get Webster's Dictionary and throw it on the floor. It's everything... God is everything.

Your divine mate already exists. When you get to the place in yourself that is peaceful divine love your true mate will be revealed.

Challenges come so we can grow and be prepared for things we are not equipped to handle now.

Plan your hours to be productive...Plan your weeks to be educational...Plan your years to be purposeful. Plan your life to be an experience of growth. Plan to change. Plan to grow.

You are always being prepared for something better or protected from something worse.

Never judge your clarity based on someone else's response.

Every day is your day if you claim it. If you wait for somebody else to make it for you you're going to be disappointed.

Gratitude is like a magnet; the more grateful you are the more you will receive to be grateful for.

I am just an ordinary person committed to doing extraordinary things.

You cannot experience the fullness of your authentic self or life when you live to avoid hurt. You will never know the joy of love or the peaceful satisfaction of being loved if you hide from hurt.

You must be willing to give total unconditional love to everyone under all circumstances. That means being willing to be totally responsible for what you do and how you do it.

You are not being tested! You are being fortified! Remember you cannot fail!

Create what you want as opposed to being stuck in what you didn't have.

The beloved is one who nurtures you trusts you supports you encourages you loves you without conditions. That's you.

If you heart had a voice Beloved what would it say?

We voluntary participate in things that we know are causing us harm because we believe we're powerless to do anything about it.

Forgive yourself for believing that youre anything less than beautiful.

We really don't know how to love each other because we haven't really learned to love ourselves. In many instances not all it's not malicious. We've just been conditioned to such bad behavior.

Sitting alone listening to the sound of your breath the beating of your heart is a reminder that you are sacred and blessed.

Be patient with yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Know that all things are working in your favor. If you take one step toward the light of Spirit Spirit will take five steps on your behalf.

One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is he hasn't completed being a boy.

I am now willing to forgive myself . . . for believing I could offer something to others before I have offered it to myself.

I am the one I have been looking for.

Listen for the instruction instead of begging for the direction.

When someone entrusts their heart to you they are giving you a piece of their soul. You cannot treat the soul casually. You must protect nurture and handle it with care.

As we learn to see each other through our spiritual eyes the physical differences will cease to matter.

If you're not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears then you aren't really ready to share yourself.

Religion is the rules regulations ceremonies and rituals developed by man to create conformity and uniformity in the approach to God. Spirituality is God's call in your soul.

Faith without challenge is nothing.

Wherever your gift is that's where it's going to be your greatest challenge.

Regardless of how hard challenging frightening or difficult an experience may seem everything is just as it needs to be in order for us to heal grow and learn.

I now know that nothing in my life will change until I change the way I see my life and myself.

When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.

Ytalding is not always pretty or easy. And it doesn`t came quick

I took my kids everywhere. I didn't have money for child care so I took them to college with me and they sat in the hallway.

This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face - learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.

Parents are teachers guides leaders protectors and providers for their children.

Some children do what they're told to do; some children do what they're told not to do; all children do what they're parents have done.

Choice is our point of power.

Any time in America when the military has to stand in opposition of their own citizenry something is wrong.

Every day is your day if you claim it.

The remedy for life's broken pieces is not classes workshops or books. Don't try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive.

Everybody's got a 'thing.' Some 'things' are nice and quiet. Some 'things' have fangs and claws. Some 'things' stink and have slobber everywhere.

You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love that is possession control fear or a combination of them all.

In the process of planning and having a wedding I forgot there would actually be a marriage a union of minds bodies souls and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over.

If you see crazy coming cross the street!

Begin within. If it shows up in your life it's coming to tell you something about you that you're acting like you don't know. Something about yourself or your relationship with God.

When anyone makes comments that are offensive to you would you be willing to do the teaching?

In 2002 my daughter was diagnosed with a rare form of colon cancer. And it was such a shock a surprise to us.

When Oprah Winfrey tells you that you need to have your own show you feel compelled to do it. Especially if she's gonna pay for it!

No whining no complaining about anyone. Everybody in your life has come to teach you lessons.

Some of us pray demands. Some of us pray complaints. Some of us pray knowing and some of us pray not knowing. But prayer is the attitude that you hold in your heart.

My vision is to elevate the consciousness of humanity one mind one heart one life one spirit at a time. They are married.

You`re demonstrating a courage that most people can`t even fathom: giving it all away in order to have yourself

You know why the road curves as you're driving along? It curves because if God showed us the distance from where we are to where we're going we'd think it was too far.

Choice is a divine teacher for when we choose we learn that nothing is ever put in our path without a reason.

Each of us was born to fulfill a divine purpose. As we open our hearts and minds to a new way of being the purpose of our lives unfolds organically.

The ego does not want to be wrong ever.

Trying to prove something to someone is never a valid reason for doing anything.

Till your mental soil with determination. Fertilize your emotional soil with positive words. And plant the seed of your heart's desire with your disciplined efforts.

We are distracted from our greatness because are greatness is what scares us. Right where you are"¦God is.

The way you get more is by having a daily spiritual practice.

Dear God Please untie the nots. All of the can nots should nots may nots and have nots. Please erase from my mind the thoughts that I am not good enough.

When you don't show up as who you are people fall in love with who you're not. Then when they find out who you are that's when they leave.

The only way to get what you really want is to let go of what you don't want.

If it's not your story to tell you don't tell it.

When we have peace in our hearts and minds we draw peace into our lives.

When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself you make the other person a thief.

Anything that threatens hinders obstructs denies delays your capacity to stand fully up for yourself within yourself take it down.

Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often it's the place where we find the deepest heartache.

Spirituality is not about what you know. It is about growing deepening evolving and becoming a living reflection of your spiritual identity.

Transformation doesn't have to be deep dark and mysterious. If you screw up fine - laugh at yourself learn and move on.

We gotta be willing to seek direction ... we've gotta be willing to look within.

Love is durable. It's like Teflon. ...Trust is like fine china. Secrets destroy trust.

Everything God does is purposeful. And since God is in each of us each of us has a purpose.

People are hurting. People are suffering. But you can not get everywhere.

We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem.

When we want to move beyond the pain when we want to feel better when we are ready to move beyond where we are emotionally and spiritually we must forgive.

There are two emotions: love and fear.

When you stand and share your story in an empowering way your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else.

Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change

I came from nothing. I came from the projects and welfare and ended up a millionaire with no frame of reference. I was bound to hit a wall sooner or later.

From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering.

You can't just cry about the pain. You can't just pray about the pain. You must eliminate the pain.

One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.

When you believe or are led to believe you are unable to act upon the greatest desires of the soul the result is mental and spiritual enslavement.

When you enter a new experience all that requires healing rushes to the surface . . . You have to pause.

Life gives you an endless supply of do-overs.

Respect you love one enough to know thay can handle your truth

Love people enough to tell them the truth and respect them enough to trust that they can handle it.

If you don't enjoy your life sorrow sadness suffering fear shame and guilt will.

Any time there is 'un-forgiveness' between people who love each other there is suffering. Any time people face challenges that they really don't understand... there is suffering.

Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.

We can think speak and bring the best possible outcome into existence by focusing on where we are going not on where we think we are.

I'm focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal - giving them tools to heal.

I have a daily message 'Stimumail ' which I use to stimulate the mind and heart. I have the opportunity to touch over 60 000 people I have never met. I also use Twitter and Facebook.

So many of us invest a fortune making ourselves look good to the world yet inside we are falling apart. It's time to invest on the inside.

Feminine power is silent dark mysterious healing nurturing. A woman can walk into a room and control it. She doesn't even have to open her mouth if she knows where her power is.

You have a right to your thoughts and feelings. Your feelings are always valid.

Order is the first law of heaven and you have to have order to survive on Earth. Figure out what has to be done each day each week each year and develop a system to achieve it.

You're never healing the level you're on. You're always healing the level you came from. For example you know things today that you didn't know in your first marriage.

Acknowledgemen t of what you feel what you know what you need is the first step toward healing.

I now realize that just because you can take a punch does not mean you must stand in front of a fist particularly not when the fist is your own.

The show is 'Fix My Life!' Get it? Life. I do not fix people.

Before you find out who you are you have to figure out who you aren't..

I'm really not that fierce.

When you find yourself in a new situation everything that requires healing is going to rush to the surface.

I've seen the good the bad and the ugly. Lived it and I'm still here to talk about it and help someone else if I can.

Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless third-party conversation to someone about someone something you haven't said to that someone.

If you want peace be peace. If you want wealth be wealth. Think it. Talk it. Prepare yourself to have it. Have faith enough to seek guidance and authority from within.

With all things in life we do not get what we ask for we get what we expect.

You are the light of the world. You are an instrument of the Divine. You are the greatest miracle in the world. Life is graced by your presence.

Oprah Winfrey gives you the stage? Shut your mouth. I said 'I'm sorry for taking over your show.' She said 'No that's why we have you here.'

Just give yourself permission to tell the truth to yourself.

Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact why not make it a habit!

I'm okay you're okay. Now let's go to work.

You work for God Incorporated.

Embrace the truth. Speak the truth. Be the truth. When we welcome the truth we live our lives like it's golden.

Everyone has a purpose because God is a purposeful God.

Love is the voice of God whispering to you from within yourself.

You've got to be willing to lose everything to gain yourself.

Sometimes you have to lose everything in order to gain yourself.

People you don't love can't hurt you.

Life doesn't have to be hard life is on your side.

The key to success is not what you do it is how you feel about what you are doing.

What I am doing; how I am being as I am doing it; and does it bring honor to my community? What is the lesson in what I am doing? And most importantly am I having fun?

Tell your story because your story will heal you and it will heal someone else.

Thinking is the problem. Thinking is hazardous to your progress in life. Don't think - feel.

If you want to hear God laugh tell Him your plans.

You never put her in your heart.

Their issues are not your issues.

Everybody does not have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone's purpose in life except yours.

Truth is love's mother and we all know it is not wise to lie to anyone's mother.

I am not my sister's keeper. I am my sister.

Love is not all that is required in a relationship. It needs understanding openness kidness patience long-suffering

It is not what you hear it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.

No storm can last forever. It will never rain 365 days consecutively. Keep in mind that trouble comes to pass not to stay. Don't worry! No storm not even the one in your life can last forever.

Mistakes are lessons that you need to learn!

I learned that telling the truth was a big part of loving yourself.

If you don't like your sister or don't get along with your father let's find out if you like yourself. Let's not sugarcoat anything about it.

As you learn to TRUST YOURSELF something miraculous happens. You begin to TRUST THE PROCESS you are living and the miracles life brings!

If you are afraid to take a chance take one anyway. What you don't do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.

You`re making it about them. This has got about you because you don`t have peace

Most of us have just learned to exercise our survival muscle. It's time to build our victory muscle.

I have a body but I am not my body. I have a face but I am not my face.

I had to get really clear about what was meaningful & what wasn't who I was & who I wasn't & who I wasn't going to be anymore.

People may not like what you do people may not like how you do it but these people are not living your life. You are!

Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU.

In speaking the truth of your experience to another it will serve you well to realize that how they choose to respond is not your responsibility.

I had no preconceived idea what fame would be like because I never thought I would be famous. I just wanted to do my work. Hell I just wanted to pay my rent on time.

Never underestimate the ruthlessness of the ego to keep you in a state of suffering in which you voluntarily participate.

Everything we experience-no matter how unpleasant-comes into our lives to teach us something.

The way we do one thing is the way we do everything.

Everything is just as it needs to be. And if we would forgive our minds and hearts would open and we could see another possibility.

Sometimes on the journey you step in dog poop. But you don't let the whole journey be about the fact that your shoe got poop on it.

When you continue to give without receiving the only thing you are proving is that you know how to be taken advantage of.

Be willing to share all of who you are. So many of us want a partner but we're not willing to show all of us.

We're all in prison. All of us are in prison but some of us have a key.

When you're the strong one people don't give you permission to hurt.

Anger simply means that your personal power - your personal space your personal sense of being - has been violated

Be patient when it seems things are not going right and may never be right again. Accept that what is yours will come to you in the right way at just the right moment.

No matter how painful your past has been you have made it through.

We set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.

It's time for you to move realizing that the thing you are seeking is also seeking you.

What would it take for you to forget all your troubles? Are you willing to simply forget all your troubles today? When you remove your attention from a problem it gets bored and moves away!

If you don't have a vision you're going to be stuck in what you know. And the only thing you know is what you've already seen.

Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.

Change doesn't have to be hard and healing doesn't have to hurt. Surely by now you know that every thing happens for a reason! There is something better awaiting you on the other side of this.

You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself.

Love is what you are not what you give or get!

What looks like a failure teaches us what not to do what does not work. We have lessons to learn from our experiences.

Without the a test you don't have a testimony.

You really have to learn what you're good at and what you're not good at what you can handle and what you can't handle. We have a tendency to forget it.

Everything happens when it needs to happen; everyone is always where they need to be. You will never miss out on what is meant for you even if it has to come to you in a roundabout way.

You must find the strength to open the wounds stick your hands inside pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past the memories and make peace with them.

You are the only one who can do it like you do it. You are the best. You have what it takes. You have the power. When you put your mind to something you get it done. So what are you waiting for?

Instead of running from what you don't want walk with commitment toward what you desire. Focus on where you are going rather than being obsessed with where you have been.

You cannot get to where you are going until you have learned all there is to learn about where you are.

You have to meet people where they are and sometimes you have to leave them there.

Once you get clear on who you are what you do and what you have been CALLED to do you become powerful.

Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday.