Tara Brach Quotes

Sometimes the easiest way to appreciate ourselves is by looking through the eyes of someone who loves us.

If you let someone know you appreciate him or her especially when you're going to disagree it gets that person's defenses down.

Our kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent not desirable not attractive or appealing to others.

I want to accept myself completely just as I am.

The most powerful healing arises from the simple intention to love the life within you unconditionally with as much tenderness and presence as possible.

No matter what feeling comes up - numbness irritability shame - if I let it arise and play itself through I naturally open into wakefulness and care.

Self-judgment continues to arise - it's a strong habit - but the fact that I made a conscious commitment to recognize it has helped me stop feeding the story of being unworthy.

Stories about ourselves and about the world continually arise in our minds and shape our beliefs about reality.

People don't behave in angry ways unless they are feeling stressed and conflicted too.

The two wings of mindfulness and kindness will begin to open the heart to more connection with our world.

In a basic way acceptance is seeing clearly what's happening and holding it with kindness. This is a radical antidote to the suffering of judging mind.

If I'm judging the attachment myself or another person then I create separation.

Paying attention is the most basic and profound expression of love.

Stories can be a jumping-off point to access the emotions and the sensations in the body.

Our attitude in the face of life's challenges determines our suffering or our freedom.

With mindfulness training we are able to recognize when we get lost in our mental dramas and bring a kind and nonreactive presence to the feelings that accompany them.

When we're awake in our bodies and sense the world comes alive. Wisdom creativity and love are discovered as we relax and awaken through our bodies.

Awakening self-compassion is often the greatest challenge people face on the spiritual path.

I'd known that I had the capacity to love that I enjoyed seeing other people be happy that I had a real awe and wonder about the beauty of this world.

To open in a loving way is to let awareness notice that tightening.

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha.

Radical Acceptance is the willingness to experience ourselves and our lives as it is.

On this sacred path of Radical Acceptance rather than striving for perfection we discover how to love ourselves into wholeness.

The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.

What would it be like if I could accept life--accept this moment--exactly as it is?

When I'm attached I find that I don't see the other person as clearly because I'm more caught up in what I'm wanting.

That non-attachment gives us the freedom to be exactly who we are.

There's healthy attachment like with a mother and child. It's biologically part of our survival.

The trance of unworthiness keeps the sweetness of belonging out of reach. The path to "the sweetness of belonging " is acceptance - acceptance of ourselves and acceptance of others without judgment.

In the process of deeply accepting our own inner experience instead of being identified with a story of a limited self we realize the compassion and wakefulness that is our essence.

The renowned seventh-century Zen master Seng-tsan taught that true freedom is being "without anxiety about imperfection.

Extend an act of kindness each day. No one has to know. It can be a smile reassuring words a small favor - without expecting something in return.

When you are in touch with your body and heart it allows you to then be in the world and act with intention and clarity and kindness.

We're so used to presenting ourselves and getting approval according to our achievements that it's difficult to be authentic and trust that we'll be accepted just as we are.

Along with judging myself harshly I'd also always seen the truth of goodness in me.

I knew I could hold myself with that absolute love and compassion.

When caught in conflict and blame - make a U-turn and shift your attention from blaming thoughts to what's going on emotionally in your body.

Managing life from our mental control towers we have separated ourselves from our bodies and hearts.

The muscles used to make a smile actually send a biochemical message to our nervous system that it is safe to relax the flight of freeze response.

When we experience stress the nervous system tries to control things. Part of waking up is discovering what we are beyond that controlling organism.

I think of desire as the essence that brings forth the whole universe.

By taking the time to explore charged memories in therapy we might uncover feelings that have been buried for decades.

Relaxation is the doorway to both wisdom and compassion.

It may sound lovey-dovey but there's research showing the positive effect of meditation on parts of the brain that control emotion.

There is something wonderfully bold and liberating about saying yes to our entire imperfect and messy life.

We can find true refuge within our own hearts and minds-right here right now in the midst of our moment-to-momen t lives.

Take moments to savor what is beautiful and good.

Discovering a richer quality of being-ness means to keep surrendering and letting go of resistance.

In the collective psyche it is being understood... that we can cultivate wisdom and compassion.

If there's a demand of being together in a certain way those expectations and judgements take away from that space and create an edginess and a cramped-ness to the relationship.

It is through realizing loving presence as our very essence through being that presence that we discover true freedom.

When we relax about imperfection we no longer lose our life moments in the pursuit of being different and in the fear of what is wrong.

Longing felt fully carries us to belonging.

Suffering is our call to attention our call to investigate the truth of our beliefs.

If our hearts are ready for anything we are touched by the beauty and poetry and mystery that fill our world.

When we open to love we become love.

Become a witness to your thoughts.

Stopping the endless pursuit of getting somewhere else is the perhaps most beautiful offering we can make to our spirit.

I don't believe I'm bad and I do believe I'm good.

This longing to express and celebrate life is innate and quite beautiful.

It's the beginning of opening to love. Even if there's not much feeling of compassion toward oneself just say "It's okay sweetheart " or "I'm sorry and I love you.

I would say both Western psychology and Eastern paths would recognize that we get caught up in feeling like a separate self and an unworthy self.

Where desire ends up causing suffering is when it fixates.

Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain.

We want to be in open loving communion with each other and our greatest fear is intimacy. That it won't work and we'll be rejected.

We like the Mother of the World become the compassionate presence that can hold with tenderness the rising and passing waves of suffering.

We are continually experiencing the conditioning to hold on tighten or resist.

People have to find their rhythm. Some people have need for more contact and time together and some people need more space.

We are waiting for the next moment to contain what this moment does not.

If it weren't for desire the formless would not have come into form and engage creatively.

When someone says to us as Thich Nhat Hanh suggests "Darling I care about your suffering " a deep healing begins.

There is so much division in this world. So what is really the path of healing? It can begin in this moment by embracing the life that's here.

By regarding ourselves with kindness we begin to dissolve the identity of an isolated deficient self. This creates the grounds for including others in an unconditionally loving heart.

The main thing going on around intimacy is that we've developed a lot of strategies so we'll be a desirable package.

Observing desire without acting on it enlarges our freedom to choose how we live.

A lot of times in spiritual communities detachment is considered to be an expression of being spiritually evolved when often we have want and fear around being in relationship with each other.

Imperfection is not our personal problem - it is a natural part of existing.

Emotions are the interaction of thoughts and of sensations in the body.

Whatever you encounter may that be part of the path.

As we free ourselves from the suffering of 'something is wrong with me 'we trust and express the fullness of who we are.'

Meditation is evolution's strategy to bring out our full potential.

Meditation helps us to get out of our thoughts about the future and really be in the present moment.

When we put down ideas of what life should be like we are free to wholeheartedly say yes to our life as it is.

By running from what we fear we feed the inner darkness

Just remember that everyone is struggling; everyone is living with fear and uncertainty and it doesn't matter what their politics are.

Underneath the stress is fear and the biggest is our own personal fear of failure.

Meditation can change the flavor of the season.

Happiness lies not in finding what is missing but in finding what is present.

Happiness lies not in finding what is missing

This is for anyone reading this who wants to explore it. Recognize the thought "Afraid of loving " then gently put your hand on your heart to send a message of kindness.

Our greatest longing is to be intimate.

Everything we love goes. So to be able to grieve that loss to let go to have that grief be absolutely full is the only way to have our heart be full and open.

Nothing is wrong?whatever is happening is just "real life.

In intimate relationships if we start trying to be more real it's very scary.

As I noticed feelings and thoughts appear and disappear it became increasingly clear that they were just coming and going on their own. . . . There was no sense of a self owning them.

If we're not open to losing we're not open to loving.

My understanding is that to love we need to be able to totally surrender to the living/dying nature of this world.

Even a few moments of offering lovingkindness can reconnect you with the purity of your loving heart.

Most of us grow up with a sense of "I'm not intelligent enough." It's such a sad thing that in the West we worship a certain kind of left-brain intelligence.

Just come into stillness. Have your intention be to relax with the breath. That will begin to set in motion a habit that will start to train the mind.

Mindfulness is a pause -- the space between stimulus and response: that's where choice lies.

But this revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.

Perhaps the biggest tragedy of our lives is that freedom is possible yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns.

When we see the secret beauty of anyone including ourselves we see past our judgment and fear into the core of who we truly are - not an entrapped self but the radiance of goodness.

There are some things we can't choose but in being present we can choose how we want to relate to them