M. Scott Peck Quotes


We must be willing to fail and to appreciate the truth that often "Life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be lived.

The quickest way to change your attitude toward pain is to accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth.

Commitment is inherent in any genuinely loving relationship.

I define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.

We cannot let another person into our hearts or minds unless we empty ourselves. We can truly listen to him or truly hear her only out of emptiness.

I guess if you want to know one single thing I'm about it's that I'm against easy answers.

The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another person we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person's growth.

The more effort we make to appreciate and perceive reality the larger and more accurate our maps will be. But many do not want to make this effort.

If we seek to be loved - if we expect to be loved - this cannot be accomplished; we will be dependent and grasping not genuinely loving.

Emotional sickness is avoiding reality at any cost. Emotional health is facing reality at any cost.

If you wish to discern either the presence or absence of integrity you need to ask only one question. What is missing? Has anything been left out?

You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.

It is their attachment to us rather than their independence from us that we value in our pets.

The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.

If your goal is to avoid pain and escape suffering I would not advise you to seek higher levels of consciousness or spiritual evolution.

Going into the unknown is invariably frightening but we learn what is significantly new only through adventures.

I can remember years ago sitting on my bed and suddenly thinking "I am God.

From the age of three on as far back as I remember I just knew there was a God behind everything.

The life of wisdom must be a life of contemplation combined with action.

By far the most important form of attention we can give our loved ones is listening... True listening is love in action.

Nirvana or lasting enlightenment or true spiritual growth can be achieved only through persistent exercise of real love.

I make no distinction between the mind and the spirit and therefore no distinction between the process of achieving spiritual growth and achieving mental growth. They are one and the same.

What people get admired and appreciated for in community are their soft skills: their sense of humor and timing their ability to listen their courage and honesty their capacity for empathy.

Many addictions can be far more dangerous than addiction to drugs. The addiction to power ...

But I already saw no great difference between the psyche and spirituality. To amass knowledge without becoming wise is not my idea of progress in therapy.

If we know exactly where we're going exactly how to get there and exactly what we'll see along the way we won't learn anything.

If we deny our anger our pain our ambition or our goodness we will suffer.

Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the making of action in spite of fear.

Everything that happens in life is there to aid our spiritual growth.

When you consider yourself valuable you will take care of yourself in all ways that are necessary.

I've had all kinds of experiences with God in terms of revelation through a still small voice or dreams or coincidences.

There is no worse bitterness than to reach the end of your life and realized you have not lived.

The best decision-makers are those who are willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive.

Human beings are poor examiners subject to superstition bias prejudice and a PROFOUND tendency to see what they want to see rather than what is really there.

But for the first time I had a religious identity. I had come home. And so I called myself a Zen Buddhist at the age of 18.

Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit.

Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.

Jesus was lonely and sorrowful and scared-an unbelievably real person.

Although I was raised in a profoundly secular home I had a belief an awareness of God from as far back as I can remember.

We are most often in the dark when we are the most certain and the most enlightened when we are the most confused.

The feeling of being valuable - 'I am a valuable person'- is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self-discipline.

As Benjamin Franklin said 'Those things that hurt instruct.' It is for this reason that wise people learn not to dread but actually to welcome problems and actually to welcome the pain of problems.

I believe it would be considerably healthier for us to dare to live without a reason for many things than with reasons that are simplistic.

God creates each soul differently so that when all the mud is finally cleared away His light will shine through it in a beautiful colorful totally new pattern.

Sickness begets chaos which through hard work and a touch of grace leads to growth and resurrection.

Doubt is often the beginning of wisdom.

We know a great deal more about the causes of physical disease than we do about the causes of physical health.

Share our similarities celebrate our differences.

The key to community is the acceptance in fact the celebration of our individual and cultural differences. It is also the key to world peace

It is our task-our essential central crucial task-to transform ourselves from mere social creatures into community creatures.

A life of total dedication to the truth also means a life of willingness to be personally challenged.

True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed thoughtful decision.

In and through community lies the salvation of the world.

There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace and ultimately no life without community.

How strange that we should ordinarily feel compelled to hide our wounds when we are all wounded.

As I grow through love so grows my joy ever more present ever more constant.

There is no virtue inherent in un-constructive suffering.

Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costs

Love always requires courage and involves risk.

There is no act of love that is not an act of work or courage. No exceptions.

Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems ... create our courage and wisdom.

Until you value yourself you won't value your time. Until you value your time you will not do anything with it.

I have a very full and busy life and occasionally I am asked Scotty how can you do all that you do? The most telling reply I can give is: Because I spend at least two hours a day doing nothing.

With total discipline we can solve all problems.

When we teach ourselves and our children discipline we are teaching them and ourselves how to suffer and also how to grow.

Discipline is wisdom and vice versa.

When we avoid the legitimate suffering that results from dealing with problems we also avoid the growth that problems demand from us.

Teach us to number our days aright.

The will to grow is in essence the same phenomenon as love. Genuinely loving people are by definition growing people.

The denial of suffering is in fact a better definition of illness than its acceptance.

America's greatest sin is the refusal to delay gratification.

Love is too large too deep ever to be truly understood or measured or limited within the framework of words.

Life is difficult.

Life is difficult. This is the great truth one of the greatest truths-it is a great truth because once we see this truth we transcend it.

A discussion becomes destructive when it begins to generate more heat than light.

Ultimately love is everything.

Examination of the world without is never as personally painful as examination of the world within.

Self examination is the key to insight which is the key to wisdom

One extends one's limits only by exceeding them.

We cannot solve life's problems except by solving them.

The great awareness comes slowly piece by piece. The path of spiritual growth is a path of lifelong learning. The experience of spiritual power is basically a joyful one.

Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional.

Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience.

When we love something it is of value to us and when something is of value to us we spend time with it time enjoying it and time taking care of it....

Consciousness is the foundation of all thinking; and thinking is the foundation of all consciousness.

Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed they create our courage and wisdom.

The path of spiritual growth is a path of lifelong learning.

The act of loving is an act of self-evolution even when the purpose of the act is someone else's growth.

You must have something in order to give it up.

God wants us to become himself or herself or itself. We are growing toward Godhood. God is the goal of evolution.

The path to holiness lies through questioning everything.

It is not easy for us to change. But it is possible and it is our glory as human beings

All human interactions are opportunities either to learn or to teach.

To heal your body you must first heal your spirit.

Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.

Integrity is never painless.

All my life I used to wonder what I would become when I grew up. Then about seven years ago I realized that I was never going to grow up--that growing is an ever ongoing process.

The only real security in life lies in relishing life's insecurity.

If we want to be heard we must speak in a language the listener can understand and on a level at which the listener is capable of operating.

Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.

Life is a series of problems. Do we want to moan about them or solve them?

Courage is not the absence of fear; it is the making of action in spite of fear the moving out against the resistance engendered by fear into the unknown and into the future.

It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.

We cannot be a source for strength unless we nurture our own strength.