Anthony de Mello Quotes


In many ways we were drugged when we were young. We were brought up to need people. For what? For acceptance approval appreciation applause.

Extend your arms in welcome to the future. The best is yet to come!

I leave you free to be yourself: to think your thoughts indulge your tastes follow your inclinations behave in ways that you decide are to your liking.

As the Arabs say "The nature of rain is the same but it makes thorns grow in the marshes and flowers in the gardens.

When you cling life is destroyed; when you hold on to anything you cease to live.

My experience is that it's precisely the ones who don't know what to do with this life who are all hot and bothered about what they are going to do with another life.

Those who make no mistakes are making the biggest mistakes of all - they are attempting nothing new.

The Master would insist that the final barrier to our attaining God was the word and concept God.

Nothing has changed but my attitude therefore everything has changed.

A nice definition of an awakened person: a person who no longer marches to the drums of society a person who dances to the tune of the music that springs up from within.

Step by step let whatever happens happen. Real change will come when it is brought about not by your ego but by reality. Awareness releases reality to change you.

The world is right because I feel good. p. 83 Awareness copyright 1990

Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance.

Love springs from awareness.

What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.

You're so ashamed of your past; drop it! You're so proud of your past; drop it!

Don't ask the world to change....you change first.

My former master taught me to accept birth and death. "Then what have you come to me for?" asked the master. "To learn to accept what lies in between.

All conflict comes from attachment.

Sinners often speak the truth. And saints have led people astray. Examine what is said not the one who says it.

the greatest learning of the ages lies in accepting life exactly as it comes to us.

Happiness is not something you acquire; love is not something you produce; love is not something you have; love is something that has you.

No. An unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong.

You can will an act of service but you cannot will love.

You don't have to add anything in order to be happy; you've got to drop something.

To fight evil with activity is like fighting darkness with one's hands. So what you need is light not fit.

Silence is not the absence of sound but the absence of self.

Has it ever occurred to you that you can only love when you are alone?

Life is easy life is delightful. It's only hard on your illusions your ambitions your greed your cravings.

What is love?; "The total absence of fear " said the Master; "What is it we fear?"; "Love " said the Master.

Enlightenment is: absolute cooperation with the inevitable.

All suffering comes from a person's inability to sit still and be alone.

Said the monk: "All these mountains and rivers and the earth and stars - where do they come from?" Said the master: "Where does your question come from?

If what you seek is Truth there is one thing you must have above all else.I know. An overwhelming passion for it.No. An unremitting readiness to admit you may be wrong.

All is well all is well. Though everything is a mess all is well.

The Rose does not preen herself to catch my eye. She blooms because she blooms. A saint is a saint until he knows he is one.

One always treads with a joyful step when one has dropped the burden called the ego.

To those who seek to protect their ego true Peace brings only disturbance.

We live in a flash of light; evening comes and it is night forever. It's only a flash and we waste it. We waste it with our anxiety our worries our concerns our burdens.

Religion is the finger pointing to God. People are too busy licking the finger to notice where it's pointing.

You can read books without ever stepping into a library; and practice spirituality without ever going to a temple.

When you get rid of your fear of failure your tensions about succeeding... you can be yourself. Relaxed. You'll no longer be driving with your brakes on.

Obedience keeps the rules. Love knows when to break them.

The devil has a Ph.D. in perfect logic.

There comes a point in your life when you become stark raving insane commit suicide or become a mystic.

Before enlightenment I used to be depressed; after enlightenment I continue to be depressed.

You sanctify whatever you are grateful for.

The butterfly in a caterpillar: the eagle in an egg; the saint in a selfish human being.

If you don't look at things through your concepts you'll never be bored. Every single thing is unique.

That of the person who sees other human beings as sinners said the Master.

The best things in life cannot be willed into being.

The poor think they will be happy when they become rich. The rich think they will be happy when they are rid of their ulcers.

I wish to become a teacher of the Truth.

Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside.

A good teacher offers practice a bad one offers theories .

Behold God beholding you...and smiling.

Is there life before death? - that is the question!

If it is peace you want seek to change yourself not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.

You are so proud of your intelligence " said the master. "You are like a like a condemned man proud of the vastness of his prison cell.

The only way that someone can be of help to you is by challenging your ideas.

You do not have to change for God to love you.

The one who would be constant in happiness must frequently change.

People who want a cure provided they can have it without pain are like those who favour progress provided they can have it without change.

The only way to change is by changing your understanding.

Take the leap! You cannot cross a chasm in little jumps.

There's nothing you can do to see â?? it is a gift.

Look for competence not claims.

You are only a disciple because your eyes are closed. The day you open them you will see there is nothing you can learn from me or anyone.

Are you your clothes? Are you your name? Are you your profession? Stop identifying with them. They come and go

When you come to see you are not as wise today as you thought you were yesterday you are wiser today.

My commitment is not to consistency but to the Truth .

Sin is a refusal to grow a refusal to love a refusal to get committed to be concerned and to take risks.

There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head beliefs so widespread so commonly held that it never occurs to you to question them.

A lost coin is found by means of a candle; the deepest truth is found by means of a simple story.

Concepts are always frozen. Reality flows.

Can one talk about the ocean to a frog in a well or about the divine to people who are restricted by their concepts?

If you never condemned you would never need to forgive.

Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality.

Happiness is our natural state. Happiness is the natural state of little children to whom the kingdom belongs until they have been polluted and contaminated by the stupidity of society and culture.

This truth I firmly hold all evidence to the contrary notwithstanding; my life has been a gift a blessing to the world.

People who want to rise above a well-cooked meal and a well-tailored garment are out of their spiritual minds.

What is the secret of your serenity? Said the master: "Wholehearted cooperation with the inevitable.

A newly married couple said "What shall we do to make our love endure?" Said the Master "Love other things together"....

We're crazy We're living on crazy ideas about love about relationships about happiness about joy about everything.

Rare indeed is the relationship in which the other is not cultivated for what one can get for oneself.

The human mind makes foolish divisions in what love sees as one.

We do not have a fear of the unknown. What we fear is giving up the known.

What is my identity ?" "Nothing " said the Master. "You mean that I am an emptiness and a void?" said the incredulous disciple. "Nothing that can be labeled." said the Master.

A disciple asked "Who is a Master?" The Master replied "Anyone to whom it is given to let go of the ego. Such a person's life is then a masterpiece.

May the peace of God disturb you always.

When I speak you must not listen to the words my dear. Listen to the Silence.

Live your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit.

The feigning sleeper can delude others he cannot delude himself. The false mystic unfortunately can delude both others and himself.

Pleasant experiences make life delightful. Painful experiences lead to growth.

It is a great mystery that though the human heart longs for Truth in which alone it finds liberation and delight the first reaction of human beings to Truth is one of hostility and fear!

People who deliberate fully before they take a step will spend their lives on one leg

Every word every image used for God is a distortion more than a description.

So love the thought of death love it.

You can never be free as long as you have an ego to defend.

Can one be fully human without experiencing tragedy? The only tragedy there is in the world is ignorance; all evil comes from that.

Doesn't everyone see Reality as it is?

Suffering is given to you that you might open your eyes to the truth.

Another illusion is that external events have the power to hurt you that other people have the power to hurt you. They don't. It's you who give this power to them.

Problems only exist in the human mind.

Problems exist only in the human mind.

A thought is a screen not a mirror; that is why you live in a thought envelope untouched by Reality.

To relate is to react. To react is to understand oneself. To understand oneself is to be enlightened. Relationships are schools for enlightenment.

Whatever is truly alive must die. Look at the flowers; only plastic flowers never die.

What is the work of a Master?" said a solemn-faced visitor. "To teach people to laugh " said the Master gravely.

Because everyone is the same distance from the sun. Does it really lessen the distance if you live on top of a skyscraper?

The spiritual quest is a journey without distance. You travel from where you are right now To where you have always been. From ignorance to recognition...

Nobody is afraid of the unknown what you really fear is the loss of the known.

As soon as you look at the world through an ideology you are finished. No reality fits ideology.

When the sage points at the moon all that the idiot sees is the finger.

The master never seemed to have his fill of gazing at his firstborn child. "What do you want him to be when he grows up?" someone asked. "Outrageously happy " said the master.

When you are guilty it is not your sins you hate but yourself.

All that you give to others you are giving to yourself.

Say goodbye to golden yesterdays: or your heart will never learn to love the present.

If I haven't received any grace today then I was not at home. This is because God is sending deliveries constantly.

You are never in love with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.

All I did was sit on the riverbank handing out river water. After I'm gone I trust you will notice the river.

This is what is ultimate in our human knowledge of God to know that we do not know.

When God means you to be a healer he sends you patients; when he makes you a teacher he sends you pupils; when he destines you to be a Master he sends you stories .

What is a loving heart? A loving heart is sensitive to the whole of life to all persons; a loving heart doesn't harden itself to any persons or things.

Isn't there such a thing as social liberation?" "Of course there is " said the Master. "How would you describe it?" "Liberation from the need to belong to the herd.

One year of life is worth more than twenty years of hibernation.

If the heart is unobstructed the result is love.

When someone offends you you can raise your spirits to heights where offenses cannot reach.

You keep insisting I feel good because the world is right! Wrong! The world is right because I feel good. That's what all the mystics are saying.

Ordinarily everything we do is in our self-interest. Everything.

People kill for money or for power. But the most ruthless murderers are those who kill for their ideas.

Spirituality practiced in the state of activity is incomparably superior to that practiced in a state of withdrawel.

As the Japanese Zen masters say â??Don't seek the truth; just drop your opinionsâ?. Drop your theories; don't seek the truth.

The important thing is not to know who "I" is or what "I" is. You'll never succeed. There are no words for it. The important thing is to drop the labels.

You're not living until it doesn't matter a tinker's damn to you whether you live or die. At that point you live. When you're ready to lose your life you live it.

Wisdom can be learned . But it cannot be taught .

There were rules in the monastery but the Master always warned against the tyranny of the law. 'Obedience keeps the rules ' he would say. 'Love knows when to break them.'

You have to understand my dears that the shortest distance between truth and a human being is a story.

Said the master: "Where does your question come from?

Most people don't live aware lives. They live mechanical lives mechanical thoughts - generally somebody else's - mechanical emotions mechanical actions mechanical reactions.

We see people and things not as they are but as we are.

If what you said was true where was the need to shout?

Wisdom comes to those who learn nothing unlearn everything.

The sun and its light the ocean and the wave the singer and his song â?? not one. Not two.

Thought can organize the world so well that you are no longer able to see it.

How sad if we pass through life and never see it with the eyes of a child.

You see persons and things not as they are but as you are.

You only change what you understand. What you do not understand and are not aware of you repress. You dont change. But when you understand it it changes.

When you fight something you're tied to it forever. As long as you're fighting it youâ??re giving it power.

Both what you run from- and what you yearn for - are within you.